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By modefor, Oct 24 2019 08:18AM

A quick look at some areas of your wedding you need to be honest with from Pinterest to Budgets and Family...


One of the most valuable things we can be is honest but, being honest with ourselves is tricky and this is especially true when it comes to our own wedding.


Therefore, it’s time to get honest, realistic and believe in your own integrity when it comes to planning your wedding.


Let me break it down a little into three key areas, in no particular order (and btw… there are plenty more things you can get honest about, not just these! Don’t even start me on children at weddings and traditions such as cake cutting and first dances!).


Pinterest

Firstly, whilst I love Pinterest for inspiration and general nosiness, get off it when making your final planning decisions for your wedding. Get your own wedding and stop stealing someone else’s! Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what YOU and YOUR partner really want. Don’t just copy someone else’s wedding or ideas that some professionals put together for a styled shoot. These images are there to be inspiration for you and not for you to carbon copy. So, close your eyes, imagine your big day… what does it look like? Honestly? Now create this vision.


Budget

Yep, the big ‘taboo’ that you need to be really honest about because quite simply, starting married life in debt purely from a party you were paying for where everyone else ate and drank sucks! So, be realistic and honest. Pick your budget truthfully and stick to it. You can have the most amazing wedding on a small budget. These big fancy expensive weddings do not make you any happier in married life than an elopement and quiet dinner with just the two of you.


Small budget does not mean missing out. It’s an opportunity to get wise and savvy financially and produce a wedding which is the truest reflection of you both as a couple with the people you love most around you.


Which brings me on to my third point…


Family

Get really brutally honest here. If you don’t like them, don’t see them and have nothing to do with them, why would you invite them? Especially if it was at the detriment of a friend who has shared so much with you or quite simply just makes you laugh and you want them at your party? Being related does not give people the right to expect an invitation to your wedding.


Now, I’m not suggesting a lack of sensitivity and being mean in not inviting family members but remember this is your wedding and you get to choose who you share it with. You could always do a separate informal family party to invite them all if you have heaps of family but actually want some friends at your wedding.


You must be honest to yourselves and do exactly what you feel comfortable with. Don’t think you are at the mercy of any historic traditions and protocols; you’re not. This is about the two of you and by the way, just because someone contributes to funding your wedding does not give them the right to dictate your guest list.


Be calm, compromise but be honest about your feelings and be empowered to take control of your wedding.


Want a chat about how you can keep calm, keep anxiety at bay and be honest with yourself to have a wedding that truly reflects you? Then drop me an email at info@modefor.co.uk


Much Love

Tabby xxx



Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography
Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography

By modefor, Jun 12 2019 08:58AM

We’ve all heard the term ‘Bridezilla.’


I’m so thankful that I’ve always had the best clients and never had any ‘Bridezillas.’


But I want to introduce you to another player in the wedding planning and wedding day scenario.

The ‘Mumzilla.’


One of the greatest causes of stress for couples when planning a wedding is a ‘Mumzilla,’ as this is a creature no-one will or can say ‘No’ too!


But I do say a massive ‘NO’ to the Mumzilla.


When it comes to planning a wedding, there is a role for everyone to play, even if that’s just a supporting role, but the most important thing to remember is this wedding only belongs to two people; the couple getting married.


Unfortunately, whilst sometimes it does come from a place of love and wanting to help, some Mums overstep the mark; running the show, making the decisions, controlling the guest list, deciding on the décor, choosing the canapés and even picking the dress. None of these responsibilities fall on a ‘mum’ unless it has been specifically requested or for a particular reason that the couple can’t do it themselves.


Now, I’ve actually met a few Mumzillas and I am not scared of them and have put them back in their cages, but often I see Mums swooping in and controlling the whole shebang when the couple would love nothing more than a ‘do’ in the back garden with all their mates and beer pong, but what they got was a full stately manor with white doves.


The bottom line is, if you’re a Mum, rein it in. Check in with yourself that you're not being a little OTT. This is NOT your wedding. Be supportive, be exactly what your offspring need you to be, but don’t take over the show and you certainly don’t get to dictate what and how things are done or who comes to celebrate, even if you are footing the bill. Of course, you get to make requests and have ideas and be a part of the process if that’s right, but even if you’re financially responsible, this payment does not give you the authority to hijack the whole day.


Let the couple have their day.


Help your daughter be the calm bride or son be the calm groom. Help, love and support, please do not add to the stress, strain and already present pressure that comes with planning a wedding.


Got a Mumzilla issue? Drop me a message and I’ll help you reduce the stress levels.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy

By modefor, Sep 10 2018 06:18AM


On Saturday the 25th of August we celebrated the wedding of our wonderful couple, Ruth and Chris.


The industrial setting of The Arches, once again saw an incredible transformation with creative styling, stunning floral displays and of course lots of individual and personal touches carefully selected by our lovely bride and groom.


The styling on the day focussed on striking rose gold metallics complimented by the delicate hues of dusky pink and violet blooms which added a dash of glam to the venue's industrial stone work. A lush green foilage wall provided a stunning back drop for the wedding ceremony itself and pretty candle lit lanterns dotted along the aisle added that extra romantic sparkle.


Bride Ruth's creative and artistic flair could be seen all around the venue, a beautiful hand drawn table plan and carefully handwritten signage, added a lovely personal touch. Ruth's Grandad had also made some giant, wooden light up letters of the couples initials which were a great focal point.


The scene was set for a fabulous day ahead and as guests arrived for the 2pm ceremony they were welcomed by wonderful live music from a musician who would provide an eclectic musical sound track for guests to dance and sing a long to throughout the whole day.


Ruth looked simply gorgeous when she arrived. Her stunning, traditional white gown, with a pretty sweet heart neckline and all over shimmer lace was perfectly accessorised with a flowing white veil and bridal bouquet of lavender tones and deep blue french hydrangeas. Her pretty team of bridesmaids, dressed in a powdery, cool grey complemented the silvery grey and white marble effect wedding cake, lovingly designed and made by Ruth's Grandma; Ruth's favourite colour!


After a relaxed ceremony and fabulous photos by Adam Wilkinson Photography Mr and Mrs Pickard and guests enjoyed a delicious wedding breakfast by in-house caterers Eat me - Drink Me. As guests made their way to be seated they 'oohed and ahhed' at childhood photographs of Ruth and Chris which provided cute table number settings. The children were kept well entertained with treasure chest colouring sets and a children's corner set up with jigsaws and fun activities to keep them busy!


As the party and dancing continued into the evening, guests were treated to a sweety station and wonderful street-food.


It was such a privilege to co-ordinate this wedding and work with such a lovely couple. A fantastic day was had by all.


Congratulations Mr and Mrs Pickard!


With love,


Karen xx


For more images click HERE





By modefor, Sep 3 2018 10:20AM



After three long years of planning and preparing, Gemma and Aaron got Married last weekend at Hargate Hall and we had so much fun celebrating with them.


The Friday set up was a family affair, with everyone getting stuck in and helping to prepare the marquee. As we all worked together to string the beautiful ivy from the ceilings and draping it throughout the marquee, we could hear the rain. Hammering down, it had gone really dark outside and every time we carried things from the car we got soaked!


Gemma looked at me and asked if the weather would be like this tomorrow? Now at Mode For… we are complete perfectionists and control freaks (it’s why we are so good at planning weddings) but the one thing we can’t control is the weather! Fast forward to Saturday afternoon and as the happy couple burst through the beautiful doors at Hargate Hall we wished them congratulations in the glorious sunshine. Gemma turned to me and said, “I can’t believe this weather, it’s beautiful!”.


Rain or shine your wedding will be beautiful too. But the best part of any wedding for us is seeing the bride and groom so completely happy and relaxed. Gemma and Aaron were so happy, stress free and calm - they were able to enjoy every moment of their wedding day.


As well as coordinating the wedding day, Mode For… catered for the wedding breakfast. Preparing our signature delicious antipasti sharing platters: piled high with Italian deli meats and cheeses, mountains of fresh rustic bread and marinated vegetables for starters. Followed by Italian style chicken wrapped in bacon stuffed full with pesto and smothered in our (secret recipe) house tomato and basil sauce, with stacks of dauphinoise potatoes and steamed vegetables. It was a feast! For dessert all the guests tucked in to the incredible wedding cake and scrumptious brownies, Eton mess and cookies, provided by their incredible family.


There were so many amazing homemade touches and thoughtful additions to Gemma and Aaron’s wedding, the memory table and beautiful guest book showed how much planning and attention to detail the couple had.


Gemma & Aaron, we wish you all the happiness in the world, thank you for letting us be such a big part of your special day.


Are you worried about feeling stressed on your wedding day? Are you feeling the pressure? Do you need help or tips on how to stay calm? We pride ourselves on creating the most relaxed and calm weddings. Tabby, our in house #Weddingfixer has an amazing free Facebook group that can help even the most anxious of brides www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer. Whatever you do please don’t worry. Sunshine or showers - your wedding will be great!

Much Love,

Laura xxx



By modefor, Aug 13 2018 07:32AM

All things bright and beautiful as The Arches is transformed into an industrial garden paradise for the wedding of Estee and Josh.


On Saturday the 28th of July, our favourite industrial wedding venue was breathtakingly transformed into a chic, urban glasshouse with a distinctively botanical feel.


The large glass windows were expertly styled with lush displays of flora and fauna. Vibrant green pot plants and pops of zesty oranges and pinks added to the tropical feel whilst an abundance of ferns and foliage added softness to the botanical garden vibe.


This relaxed and tranquil sanctuary was the perfect location for Estee and Josh to celebrate their wedding day with family and friends and what a fabulously relaxed and happy time was had by all!


The 2pm ceremony was very much a family affair, a joyous occasion full of song, dance and praise with Estee and Josh's family and friends taking a lead role in the proceedings. A live band, made up of friends of the bride and groom provided wonderful music throughout the hour-long ceremony and Estee's bridesmaid's beautiful singing voice had guests dancing and singing in the aisles, as they embraced the joyful atmosphere.


The stormy weather on the day didn't dampen spirits and several rainstorms and deluges only added to the magical atmosphere. As thunder rumbled in the distance, there was a pause for reflection before more happiness and rejoicing, as Mr and Mrs Mellor danced down the aisle whilst family and friends clapped and cheered.


So much singing and dancing was clearly very thirsty work and as the cloud bursts continued after the ceremony, guests sipped on Pimms cocktails and relaxed and chatted in the beautiful garden like surroundings.


Bride Estee looked stunningly beautiful in her dress, a champagne bodice overlaid with an intricate floral themed lace design, accessorized perfectly with a pretty art deco style bridal halo. Her effortlessly romantic bridesmaids were dressed in flowing Grecian style gowns and floral bouquets and halos were kept pure and neutral. An image that wouldn't have looked out of place in a glossy bridal magazine. Just beautiful!


Our fantastic in-house caterers 'Eat Me-Drink Me' provided a wonderful wedding breakfast, the 'Middle Eastern' sharing platters seemed to prove very popular as guests chatted, socialised and enjoyed delicious Moroccan spiced hummus, sun blushed tomatoes, baba ghanoush and flat breads followed by a main course of delicious thyme roasted chicken and baked chocolate brownie for desert. What a feast!


The love and friendship between Estee, Josh and their families and friends was plain to see. A perfectly relaxed day bursting with so much joy, peace and happiness.


If you're going to get wed.....#wedlikemels!


Love from,


Karen x




Cake by Sweet Sugar Sixpence
Cake by Sweet Sugar Sixpence
Mode for's Karen with the happy couple
Mode for's Karen with the happy couple
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